You wake up one day finding your marriage in the middle of a crisis and sadly, you can't think
of any reasons behind it. And your partner just told you that he/she wants to end your marriage or he/she has
fallen out of love.
Regardless of what the reason is, it's a fact that you will experience a tough and confusing
time. You have no idea where to begin because this is the first time this occurred. But fortunately, there are
things you can do to fix your problem without ending your marriage.
Exert more effort
Stop Your Marriage Problems Right Now!
It's a typical suggestion that both the husband and wife must both work on their relationship.
It is a different story if your spouse has already decided to leave and he/she is not willing to work with your
plans. You need to make HUGE efforts to save your marriage.
Even though your spouse has chosen to get a divorce or has said he/she is not in love with you
anymore, don't lose hope! There are things you can still do to make her change her decision. There are
possibilities that a marriage will become stronger and last longer if this type of issues are conquered. Keep in
mind that it's not always a "happy day" when it comes to marriage. We'll always get to a point where our
relationship will be tested. There's always a possibility that you can overcome those obstacles by staying positive
and motivated to work your way to the end.
When he/she is mad, your spouse may whine about something that you said or did previously. You
may think that this is the cause of his/her decision of ending your relationship, but at times it is far from the
truth. Guilt can be the reason of those rumblings and it's his/her only way to let it out. In this case, your
spouse might also be guilty of the crisis your relationship is going through and he/she conveys it with anger to
justify his or her decision. The more complaints he/she throws at you, the more probably they are not true. So
don't take them personally.
Remember that at this time, you do not need additional issues in your marriage. Taking this
personally may add to the emotions you're feeling right now. Just focus on your main goal, that is to fix the
problems your relationship has and changing the decision of your spouse.
Love Yourself and Focus on Other Aspects of your Life
Can you still recall when was the last time you have looked at a new pastime or made yourself
happy?. These activities should not be marriage-related so that you can temporarily put aside your problems. It
will not only make you feel better but this can also show your partner how interesting you can be.
If Your Partner Demands Time, Give it.
Earlier, it was explained that you should make a huge effort when your spouse has decided to end
your marriage. But this does not mean you have to follow her wherever she goes or contact her every minute to check
on her. How do you really deal with this problem? What you have to do is to allow him/her sort his/her feelings and
find the answer for himself/herself rather than forcing him/her to provide you with an answer that maybe even
he/she doesn't know. At times, people react impulsively when their minds are unclear. If that is the case, personal
time is what he/she really needs.
It is really not a simple job to resolve a marriage problem. Sometimes, fixing each other's
issues first is essential. Being open minded with each other's emotions and being positive that you can overcome
this crisis can help you get through these tough times.
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